It is almost every young lady’s dream to get married at some point in their adult life. This is so important to us that we spend time thinking and praying for marriage and about the person we are going to marry. Praying for your future husband is not wrong, but as you pray, what are you doing to prepare yourself to be a good wife? I would like to believe that being a good wife just doesn’t happen instantaneously overnight.
Sometime around 2018, I joined an online Movement of young single woman preparing themselves for their future husbands through sharing practical life lessons and prayer. It is in this group that I realized that most of us young ladies don’t really know why we want to get to get married, how to conduct one’s self in a marriage, hence many are less prepared for what awaits them in marriage. These are some of the many contributing factors of the high divorce rate in our generation. In the Movement, I got to learn a few lessons that I believe that every single lady should embrace while they wait.
Pray for yourself
I realized that as I pray to God to marry a good husband somewhere in this world, some guy is praying to marry a good wife. As you pray for yourself, pray that you become the type of wife that your husband needs in his life. Ask God to turn your emotional, rude habits into kind, loving, patient, gentle and self-controlled traits. These traits will surely come in very handy in your marriage.
Never compromise
Waiting can weary the soul. Societal expectations and pressures can sometimes lead you in making decisions that you will most probably regret in the near future. A marriage can either make you or break you. Surely you don’t want to marry wrong. Never get into a marriage because you think your “biological clock” is ticking, or because you are being pressured into it by parents or friends. Counterfeits will come but you should be resolute in what you want in a husband. DO NOT SETTLE FOR LESS. Remember Isaiah 60:22, God is faithful.
"At the right time, I, the Lord, will make it happen." Isaiah 60:22 (NLT).
Remain pure
What is your philosophy about sex before marriage? God calls every one of us to abstain from sex before marriage and for all the good reasons. He designed and embedded sexual emotions into our bodies for appropriate use in marriage. Many, if not all of us, fall victim of sexual temptations and it becomes struggle throughout the whole singleness period. Avoid sex before marriage because it will destroy you, both physically and spiritually. We need God to fight the sexual temptations because on our own we can never stay pure in thought and in deed.
"Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body." 1 Corinthians 6:18 (NLT).
Learn to cook is important
“A way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”. Remember it is your duty as wife to provide good food for your husband and your family. You don’t want to be preparing monotonous meals, spice up your cooking Sis to keep your future man happy. Take that baking class or cooking class to improve your skills. Be the Proverbs 31:15 woman.
As you wait develop an intimate relationship with God, He will guide your steps.
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